Piece by Piece
There are two kinds of people in this world, the latter of which are quite a few: the ones who are changed by the systems they enter (read: adaptation), and the ones who change the systems (read: influence the change). Not at once, not through a sudden revolution to overthrow the world, but step by step. They bring their uniqueness in the systems they need to function in and help others to discover their own uniqueness, as well. Although they also need to adapt and grow with the system, they manage to change the settled cheerfulness of the ones around them into joy of life and willingness to breathe more than just the dull grey of every day.
Ideally, there should be something more for each of us than just work. You can, of course, indulge in work and play hide and seek with the other parts of your life, but this is usually a short term solution that takes more than it gives. Lately, an article about a super-performing workaholic lawyer who killed herself in spite of a great career (and a missing life) spammed the inboxes of most yuppies - and not without a reason. There still are people who think that a 300 hours-a-month career, three SUVs in the garrage and two kids alienated by seeing their parents every other week means finding their life's calling. I was quite stunned yesterday at an abroad studying friend's remark that he would sacrifice everything for a career, and keep love and feelings in a background. "Basically how to make money on the stock exchange" is what he values most, in the spirit of a - in my opinion overrated but hey, everyone is free to form their own opinion - new-found Western capitalist life philosophy.
I'm going to practice some more merengue tonight :) and watch Dirty Dancing for the 10th time, not before recommending you the mood melody of the day: Piece by Piece, Katie Melua:
Piece by piece
Is how I'll let go of you
Kiss by kiss
Will leave my mind one at a time
One at a time
2 comments:
Workaholism vs. personal life. Hm kiddo, you pushed some buttons here ... I’ve been pondering a while before answering to this particular post.
From my side of the world the key of the equation stays in how one can/may/wish/risk to deal with loneliness.
You know, sometimes loneliness and sadness in two (in a couple) can hurt more and much deeper than anything else. Workaholism may provide an alternative, of course a temporary one.
Like in medicine, where curing the effects of a drog can be approached by inducing the subjects with little dosis of the same very bad thing, dealing with loneliness in loneliness may work for non-gray robots via workaholism.
And with the early dawn
Moving right along
I couldn’t buy and eyeful of sleep
And in the aching night under satellites
I was not received
Built with stolen parts
A telephone in my heart
Someone get me a priest
To put my mind to bed
This ringing in my head
Is this a cure or is this a disease
...
Show me how to live
Show me how to live
...
[Audioslave]
Dear Romulus...
I have hesitated a bit before writing this comment. Loneliness and sadness in two... that can only be cured by not being lonely and sad in two. There is no reason in keeping up a relationship if all it brings is sadness. Most people are afraid of making the separation step, most because of nice memories and hopes that it is just a passing phase (some of them are, some prolong into a lifetime of misery), others because they are afraid to be out there on their own again. Finding somebody to love can prove a difficult task, or rather a strain after a comfy relationship where basic needs are nurtured.
Workaholism is only partly a solution to grief. It deepens it and makes you a paranoid android. Been there, done that. One needs beautiful things in life, activities to refresh and feel good. While work may be some of these activities, it does not always enrich you as a human being.
Huh.
:)
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